Close your eyes and remember the most beautiful thing our parents told us: Princess ... king of the house ... my life ... you are a charm ... love ... my heart ... my love ... my heaven ... so handsome ... what
ready ... Are we smiling?
Maybe some of us failed to bring these memories, and instead appear without permission as well: what a fool you ... they just know that if you keep lying ... and I'll tell your father ... you're wrong ... I do not want ... you not understand? ... Are you deaf? ... Distracted as his mother ...
Are we pricked?
What our parents, or those who worked to raise us, have said, necessarily has become the most solid of our identity. For adults who are named the way things are. So what we say it is.
The young child does not question what they hear from their elders. It may be painful or rewarding, but in all cases, the interpretation of adults is quite accurate for the child who learns to translate the world through the lens of the elderly.
In this sense, the intention with which we talk with children is important. If the love of truth, our words will probably loaded and loving feelings soft. But if we are full of resentment, hatred distill even when children have nothing to do.
is true that there are situations where the child does something wrong or inappropriate. Well. One thing is to discuss what "did" wrong, and another thing is that this act would become someone who "is" bad. Only our anger may be confused between one and other. If the child, after hearing his parents saying the same thing, he becomes convinced is evil, be trapped by that circuit where "it" as is evil, and to be bad, you have to keep doing everything you do upsetting their parents. At that point, has lost all hope of being loved unconditionally.
For the child "eternally bad in the eyes of their parents," another guy who will always act the opposite character, "the eternally good." Sometimes it is someone as close as brother or sister, or someone very close to the family. There, in that character, "no matter what you do, lie all the admiration and named by parents as someone" good, intelligent and smart. " This is proof that this is not what everyone is or does, but the need for adults to project polarized our sides accepted and our shameful sides in other people, not take care of who we are. And to divide one side of life in very black and white in another well, so to have some sense of clarity. That of course is not.
seems that adults need to show everything the children do wrong, how inept or stupid they are, to feel a little smarter. It is a paradox because acting this way, it is obvious that we're incredibly stupid.
But things are easier than they seem. Tell the children that are beautiful, loved, welcomed, adored, generous, noble, beautiful, who are the light of our eyes and the joy of our heart and generates children even more enjoyable, healthy, happy and wise. And There is nothing more pleasant to live with children happy, safe and loving. There is no reason not to lavish colors and words full of dreams, unless we are flooded with rage and bitterness. It is possible that the pretty words do not appear in our vocabulary, because we have never received in childhood. In that case, we have to learn them with tenacity and determination. If we do this work now, our children, to become parents-not have to learn this lesson. Because of his heart will emerge quite naturally, the most beautiful words and phrases most rewarding for their children. And these strings of words of love be perpetuated for generations, without our grandchildren and great repair them because they will make part of their way to be genuine.
our generation seems to hinge on the evolution of Western society. Women we have to learn to work and deal with money. To be autonomous. We have to learn about our sexuality. A re learning to be mothers with different parameters of our mothers and grandmothers. And we must learn to love. So you may feel is an enormous challenge and is also much work, that of raising children in a different way to how we were raised. It's true. It's hard work. But we're saving our offspring. Consider it an investment in the future with zero risk. From now on ... Only words of love for our children! Yell to the wind that we love to heaven. And higher still. And more and more. Laura Gutman
ready ... Are we smiling?
Maybe some of us failed to bring these memories, and instead appear without permission as well: what a fool you ... they just know that if you keep lying ... and I'll tell your father ... you're wrong ... I do not want ... you not understand? ... Are you deaf? ... Distracted as his mother ...
Are we pricked?
What our parents, or those who worked to raise us, have said, necessarily has become the most solid of our identity. For adults who are named the way things are. So what we say it is.
The young child does not question what they hear from their elders. It may be painful or rewarding, but in all cases, the interpretation of adults is quite accurate for the child who learns to translate the world through the lens of the elderly.
In this sense, the intention with which we talk with children is important. If the love of truth, our words will probably loaded and loving feelings soft. But if we are full of resentment, hatred distill even when children have nothing to do.
is true that there are situations where the child does something wrong or inappropriate. Well. One thing is to discuss what "did" wrong, and another thing is that this act would become someone who "is" bad. Only our anger may be confused between one and other. If the child, after hearing his parents saying the same thing, he becomes convinced is evil, be trapped by that circuit where "it" as is evil, and to be bad, you have to keep doing everything you do upsetting their parents. At that point, has lost all hope of being loved unconditionally.
For the child "eternally bad in the eyes of their parents," another guy who will always act the opposite character, "the eternally good." Sometimes it is someone as close as brother or sister, or someone very close to the family. There, in that character, "no matter what you do, lie all the admiration and named by parents as someone" good, intelligent and smart. " This is proof that this is not what everyone is or does, but the need for adults to project polarized our sides accepted and our shameful sides in other people, not take care of who we are. And to divide one side of life in very black and white in another well, so to have some sense of clarity. That of course is not.
seems that adults need to show everything the children do wrong, how inept or stupid they are, to feel a little smarter. It is a paradox because acting this way, it is obvious that we're incredibly stupid.
But things are easier than they seem. Tell the children that are beautiful, loved, welcomed, adored, generous, noble, beautiful, who are the light of our eyes and the joy of our heart and generates children even more enjoyable, healthy, happy and wise. And There is nothing more pleasant to live with children happy, safe and loving. There is no reason not to lavish colors and words full of dreams, unless we are flooded with rage and bitterness. It is possible that the pretty words do not appear in our vocabulary, because we have never received in childhood. In that case, we have to learn them with tenacity and determination. If we do this work now, our children, to become parents-not have to learn this lesson. Because of his heart will emerge quite naturally, the most beautiful words and phrases most rewarding for their children. And these strings of words of love be perpetuated for generations, without our grandchildren and great repair them because they will make part of their way to be genuine.
our generation seems to hinge on the evolution of Western society. Women we have to learn to work and deal with money. To be autonomous. We have to learn about our sexuality. A re learning to be mothers with different parameters of our mothers and grandmothers. And we must learn to love. So you may feel is an enormous challenge and is also much work, that of raising children in a different way to how we were raised. It's true. It's hard work. But we're saving our offspring. Consider it an investment in the future with zero risk. From now on ... Only words of love for our children! Yell to the wind that we love to heaven. And higher still. And more and more. Laura Gutman
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