Housework, ie, those small daily actions that we seek comfort, hygiene, physical and order in the immediate surroundings have lost all prestige and social value. Since women have been circulating in the outside world, all references to "the house" was devoid of visibility. Therefore, we intend to run away from this place exist. Whoever gets caught, it is simply because he has not managed to escape in time.
Women carry centuries of history where the confinement in the home and responsibility for operation were comfortable identity. We lived in an emotional prison without the mobility and autonomy offered "being outside." It is understandable that once women have had some access to freedom from money and sexuality, home and domestic duties invisible field, be experienced as a place where our esteem is hurt.
However, we all need a modicum of order and comfort to meet basic needs and food hygiene. Someone has to occupy.
interesting thing is that all the household chores are simple and even enjoyable in themselves, but the real problem lies in the value they attach. For women, it is obvious that they are tinged submission and obscurantism. Therefore, we rarely experience them as liberators, but stripped of historical interpretations-are positive and in the service of people, including ourselves.
also have to admit that men do not stop to take on chores that are the domain of all of us and our remit to all adults alike.
Therefore, from the boredom and the feeling of injustice, we transmit to our children that household chores are a grim obligation and there are no identity or benefit. Often "the fourth order is an order directed at children as punishment. Rarely "ordered together as part of playing together." When we ask children collaboration, and we are often angry, tired, no patience and pretending that they will take over this task "so horrible" no one else wants to take.
also true that we are widening the gap between "inside" and "outside."
"Outside" mothers and fathers work. "Outside" children study and then make multiple activities. But "inside" children remain passive (watching TV) and parents are also liabilities (watch TV). The action happens outside. Passivity is happening inside.
I mean we have not included household activity as part of inter-family relationships. We feel that good parenting is to do something "for them." Accompany them to their activities, take a walk, carpool or vacation, help with homework, nagging to take his bath. Anyway, that's all very well and realizes that address these parents that their children grow up healthy and deploy their intelligence. But beyond that, no one feels or believes that housework can become intimate and simple that we can share, that affects us all equally, which organizes and helps us to mature.
is not easy to sort the shelves, shopping, fill the cupboards, sweep, wash and iron clothes with the kids hanging around, if we believe that these tasks lead us back to a terrifying past and if we do it quickly and wearily trying in vain that children do not bother us too much. But if we stop and think about what we can do household chores with the children, together, as we talk or play, we see that some-not all, are possible. Will depend on the age of children, of course. And the time we have available, we already know, is very low.
may be useful to begin by the fact that cooking together. Some women we like the kitchen. Do not wash the dishes, of course. But cooking is the creative side close to the senses. Even a very young child can cut any food with their hands, others may wash some vegetables, some learn to turn fire gently. Making cakes is something every child loves, especially if it is the first to eat when you are baking. And that can lead to some equipment used to wash, climbed to a high chair, but we waste some more detergent than needed. It will do so wonderfully well that we named deputy director of the kitchen. Then, there will always be cakes, sometimes it will be the soup, which for the first time will be delicious if the child participated in its preparation. Clean
is not as attractive. However, instead of trying to sort toys for them, we have both a broom to the room and sweep the house together, while praising the qualities of great cleanser the child in question. Is possibly as much dust as before, but meanwhile we've been together. And all we take possession of the house as a place that invites us to activity. If this is the fourth of them, every now and we'll sit down with them to order, and within minutes you will discover a toy that had not seen in a long time, lost among the many objects. Okay, you play. The child knows that we are ordering together anyway. It is not the same as watching TV while orders alone and angry mother.
is true it is not easy to sustain a lifelong partnership. And we must also address the agreement that we could achieve with the children's father, if there is one at home. Basically, if adults find a way to share the order and hygiene need, it will be easier to include children from a young age. When they are older, may have a specific responsibility, and it will be possible to implement if the cooperation on a task for everyone was always present in the family.
Women and men have turned a few pages of history. Now the conventions that lasted for generations about the power, the woman as a maid and man as master, became obsolete. However we are not achieving true even cohabitation agreements. There also have a challenge can happen in the invisibility of the home, but it is essential for the evolution of human relationships. Laura Gutman
Women carry centuries of history where the confinement in the home and responsibility for operation were comfortable identity. We lived in an emotional prison without the mobility and autonomy offered "being outside." It is understandable that once women have had some access to freedom from money and sexuality, home and domestic duties invisible field, be experienced as a place where our esteem is hurt.
However, we all need a modicum of order and comfort to meet basic needs and food hygiene. Someone has to occupy.
interesting thing is that all the household chores are simple and even enjoyable in themselves, but the real problem lies in the value they attach. For women, it is obvious that they are tinged submission and obscurantism. Therefore, we rarely experience them as liberators, but stripped of historical interpretations-are positive and in the service of people, including ourselves.
also have to admit that men do not stop to take on chores that are the domain of all of us and our remit to all adults alike.
Therefore, from the boredom and the feeling of injustice, we transmit to our children that household chores are a grim obligation and there are no identity or benefit. Often "the fourth order is an order directed at children as punishment. Rarely "ordered together as part of playing together." When we ask children collaboration, and we are often angry, tired, no patience and pretending that they will take over this task "so horrible" no one else wants to take.
also true that we are widening the gap between "inside" and "outside."
"Outside" mothers and fathers work. "Outside" children study and then make multiple activities. But "inside" children remain passive (watching TV) and parents are also liabilities (watch TV). The action happens outside. Passivity is happening inside.
I mean we have not included household activity as part of inter-family relationships. We feel that good parenting is to do something "for them." Accompany them to their activities, take a walk, carpool or vacation, help with homework, nagging to take his bath. Anyway, that's all very well and realizes that address these parents that their children grow up healthy and deploy their intelligence. But beyond that, no one feels or believes that housework can become intimate and simple that we can share, that affects us all equally, which organizes and helps us to mature.
is not easy to sort the shelves, shopping, fill the cupboards, sweep, wash and iron clothes with the kids hanging around, if we believe that these tasks lead us back to a terrifying past and if we do it quickly and wearily trying in vain that children do not bother us too much. But if we stop and think about what we can do household chores with the children, together, as we talk or play, we see that some-not all, are possible. Will depend on the age of children, of course. And the time we have available, we already know, is very low.
may be useful to begin by the fact that cooking together. Some women we like the kitchen. Do not wash the dishes, of course. But cooking is the creative side close to the senses. Even a very young child can cut any food with their hands, others may wash some vegetables, some learn to turn fire gently. Making cakes is something every child loves, especially if it is the first to eat when you are baking. And that can lead to some equipment used to wash, climbed to a high chair, but we waste some more detergent than needed. It will do so wonderfully well that we named deputy director of the kitchen. Then, there will always be cakes, sometimes it will be the soup, which for the first time will be delicious if the child participated in its preparation. Clean
is not as attractive. However, instead of trying to sort toys for them, we have both a broom to the room and sweep the house together, while praising the qualities of great cleanser the child in question. Is possibly as much dust as before, but meanwhile we've been together. And all we take possession of the house as a place that invites us to activity. If this is the fourth of them, every now and we'll sit down with them to order, and within minutes you will discover a toy that had not seen in a long time, lost among the many objects. Okay, you play. The child knows that we are ordering together anyway. It is not the same as watching TV while orders alone and angry mother.
is true it is not easy to sustain a lifelong partnership. And we must also address the agreement that we could achieve with the children's father, if there is one at home. Basically, if adults find a way to share the order and hygiene need, it will be easier to include children from a young age. When they are older, may have a specific responsibility, and it will be possible to implement if the cooperation on a task for everyone was always present in the family.
Women and men have turned a few pages of history. Now the conventions that lasted for generations about the power, the woman as a maid and man as master, became obsolete. However we are not achieving true even cohabitation agreements. There also have a challenge can happen in the invisibility of the home, but it is essential for the evolution of human relationships. Laura Gutman
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