sexuality of women destroyed
social order in our sexuality has been reduced to phallocentrism adult, ie what is meant by 'sex' is a drive that turns adult around the phallus. By 'sex' everybody understands sex. But there are a basic human and women's sexuality is not phallocentric.
For when Western civilization began to recognize 'scientifically' sexuality, takes millennia woman dragging a body subject to this order phallocratic, a body that will cut the roots from the beginning of its growth, as well as a bonsai. The female sex does not exist, empirically Freud notes, from what he sees and phallocratic and misogynist bias of our civilization. In the current scenario of a sexual nature, it is determined that there is only one sex, the male and the woman is perceived and defined as a sexless male, neutered. However, even Freud himself acknowledged that there was something that eluded him, a 'black continent' unexplored ... difficult to return to life as if it had come under especially inexorable repression. (1)
phallocratic Depending on the culture of single-sex, female orgasm has to be vaginal or clitoral, however, the French psychoanalyst and sexologist Maryse Choisy (2), after ten years of working with the questionnaire, said that although his research as possible to speak of five types of orgasms (the clitoris, the vagina, the sewage, without acme or without paroxysms and cervical), female orgasm is the most authentic cervical, its depth, pace, intensity and extent. For example, Maryse Choisy says: squeezing the thighs or buttocks firmly (women) achieve a kind of orgasm that starts at some point very deep inside, without any other stimulation. It also ensures that irrespective of the stimulation results in orgasmic process, in reality, they all have their origin or source (source = French) in the uterus. Masters and Johnsons
also ensure that all produce female orgasm 'contractions' of the uterus, which comes to confirm that, irrespective of external stimulation, all orgasms have in common rhythmic movements of the uterus, which we prefer called 'beats' instead de'contracciones. "
This explains the image of mermaids, fish-women, which in ancient times represented the non-phallocentric sexuality of women. Sirens could not have intercourse with men, but voluptuously as dolphins swam and danced the dance of the belly of the uterus, in the water.
Juan Merelo-Barbera (3) states that the female erogenous System Center is not the clitoris, but the uterus, it begins to beat propelling waves of pleasure, every time a woman is sexually aroused. But the uterus is a bag of muscle tissue, and muscles become stiff and do not use lose their elasticity and functionality. When a leg in plaster us a month, then we need to do rehabilitation exercises to restore muscle function ... What would happen if the leg had been immobilized 20 or 30 years? Births without pain and pleasure there, and no longer need to resort to reporting Bartolomé de las Casas of Caribbean women 500 years ago or investigations by Merelo-Barbera and others, since the birth with joy and orgasmic have been filmed. In fact the Bible itself should have led us to suspect, because he says' give birth in pain 'in the future tense, the pair of' man rule over you 'and' I will put enmity between you and the snake "(which was the greatest symbol of female sexuality in pre-patriarchal civilizations.)
Labor with pain, spastic uterus (4), and motherhood robot, without the impetus of desire, was the great achievement of cessation of female sexuality. If in the era pre-patriarchal social organization built through-maternal female libido (5), their removal was a prerequisite for lifting the patriarchal society.
last 4 or 5 thousand years, the power of a group of men created a society based on the subjugation of women. This submission included a very special way, sexual submission, ie created a society based on the systematic violation of women's wishes. Whether in practice this violation was more or less forced or violent, according to the time, gradually makes the desire of women is no longer relevant until it vanishes, disappears and is limited to phallocratic complacency. Women lost their customs, their meetings, dances voluptuous, sensual bathrooms shared between sisters, mothers, aunts, grandmothers ...., melee with his creatures ... Maternity lost born of desire and guided by the pleasure of their bodies: they lost their own way of existence, says Lea Melandri (6), an existence driven by the beat of the abdomen; lost the freedom of their body and consciousness of the . Sexual desire in women came to be considered lewd and dishonest, so when you emerge on the woman, she felt guilty and hate and to distance himself from his own body. As it says the Bible, good wives were slaves of the Lord, should speak as little as possible and to be ashamed of her husband as patriarchal mothers had the mission to introject the modesty and restraint in mothers, making it the guarantee of the cessation of all hint of sexual desire production of future generations of women. Root cut the value of the female body and the natural development of female sexuality.
why women start to be covered with veils and walk stiff like a stick. Hygiene becomes an aseptic eliminating the smell of our streams, which is a specific factor in sexual attraction (eg nursing woman attracts the baby.) And the daily habits of the positions are rectified, we stopped squatting and generalizes the use of the chair will educate the body's movement with the aim of stopping everything to the pelvic and uterine muscles so that our belly does not shudder and fail to beat the sex drive.
I think it is obvious that the sexuality of women (unlike men) is not uniform, it is not always the same throughout her life, she goes through different cycles and sexual states, a major production libidinal than others, and above all different topics. Emotional balance, mental and physical, hormonal and libido, which supports our undulating bodies is a process, cyclical. So the moon, which appears in the sky changing cyclically, has always been a symbol of femininity. Yet if our production function as sexual and libidinal, was something straight and always the same.
aside the sexuality of the girl libido differentiation begins before puberty, it is not the same sexual status or the same hormonal balance that women have when ovulating than when menstruating. Also different is the status of the pregnant woman who is not, nor the woman in childbirth or after childbirth or during pregnancy outside the womb, or during prolonged lactation, or when live the passion of love with adults or adults. We lost, along patriarchal socialization, the changing perception of our bodies, how we feel, our different flows and their odors.
Widespread sexual alignment of women around the phallus was consolidated over the millennia of patriarchal civilization mentioned earlier. This lineup, backed by the full force of law, consolidates both psychic and somatic. Phallocentrism goes deeper into the unconscious, internalized as a sexual system that handles our impulses before they become aware, as we shall see.
Childbirth, which is a major episode in the woman's sexual life, no longer considered as such, this is very serious because the physiology of birth is intended to function with the momentum of erotic excitement. In fact, to force the onset of labor, medicine has to make laboratory oxytocin (to inject us with the famous drip), a hormone called 'love' that is secreted naturally with sexual arousal, because they have not found another thing to open the cervix. Furthermore, as any sexual act, delivery requires privacy for the body to surrender to the excitement and relaxation, intimacy disappears in hospital births (7). All this, coupled with the lack of our body and loss of confidence in him, along with the fear instilled and uterine rigidity resulting from childhood sexual repression, makes us do the opposite of what the labor required; contracted full of fear, we give our trust to the authorities of Medicine, which-apart-cesarean may not know or do what only the body knows how and when to do. The supine position is a position contrary to birth: the birth canal narrows and lengthens, and it goes horizontal position against gravity, but especially in this position the woman can not do with muscle strength pelvic; Instead, squatting can make all the strength of pelvic muscles to enhance progress of the baby, the birth canal is shortened and the output goes in favor of gravity. Birth in the supine position is to extend the delivery, to difficulties in advance of the baby, ease the jam and the lack of oxygen, is as absurd as to defecate in that position. Just logic: medical manipulation and aggravate the suffering of the mother and baby. Forcing women to give birth in that position is a gratuitous and unnecessary violence, is the image of submission and denial of our bodies.
There are still areas out West, where it is known that childbirth and motherhood are episodes of sexual life of a woman. Women of India displayed the petals of the lotus flower opening to open the birth canal, a soft opening, without violence, of course not occur to them to get to give birth in the supine position, in the midst of outbreaks, given the orders of the medical authorities. In parts of Saudi Arabia women dance belly dancing around the mother hiponotizándola with its rolling rhythmic movements that it also moves for the body instead of moving against him (8). Speaking of pleasure
calving Martian sounds, but is as real as difficult for women in the empire phallocratic socialized. A Nevertheless, there is one important thing to know, immediately after birth, even though it has been painful and violent to the mother and child, there is a chance to regain self-regulation of the sexual process of motherhood. It is two or three hours immediately after the start of the creature. In that time period produced the biggest shock of oxytocin all our sexual life (7), as well as other opiates such as endorphins. If we leave a little peace, we will be overrun by waves of pleasure and happiness to feel fresh out the baby in our belly and sucking the nipple. This physiological phenomenon is established filogénticamente to organize the link or symbiosis of exterogestación and is known by the name 'mark'. The external-pregnancy (which lasts about a year, but it is very intense the first two months) is the only truly symbiotic period of our lives. Libidinal attraction, says Michael Balint (9) between mother and baby makes and maintains the state of symbiosis, a mutual sexual attraction that corresponds to a new sexual status of women and the child, so pleasant and rewarding the woman and baby. Balint says it is charging (or cathexis) libidinal over human life, because it must maintain the mutual attraction of the symbiosis, confirming what ya say hormonal indicator. And even now we can survive on milk and artificial heat, skin to skin contact that corresponds to the libidinal production is still necessary not only mentally, but also organically, for the formation of neuronal synapses, neuromuscular coordination, the immune system, etc. . It has been shown to depend on the excitement the production of certain enzymes and other chemical modulators required for the maturation of the human creature psychosomatic. The worst is not to suck the nipple is plastic, but the body is lacking behind the pacifier or bottle, ie the destruction of the melee with the mother and the blocking of our basic sexual development. Currently
systematically separated newborn child of the mother, with the excuse to wash and inspect the child clinically, this results in the disruption of imprinting, and is a denial of female sexuality, one of the largest states pleasure to our lives and also of the same creature, which is damaged for life (this is called 'basic fault').
speak of pleasure and desire to breastfeed also sounds like something outrageous, so much we have lost the sexual instincts. The women consider a can and let the @ s babies with bottles and kangaroos to go to work. However, Breastfeeding can be extremely pleasant, a pleasure that is felt in the breast and uterus and vagina, as there are connections or 'meridians' of pleasure between her breasts and uterus, as expressed in the pre-patriarchal art by drawing on bodies in paintings or sculptures.
According to Michel Odent (7) during lactation, the mother's libido is directed towards the baby, which leads him to the scientist to question the monogamous (the truth is that even in today's society, many women who breastfeed creatures lose their desire for her fellow workers).
Motherhood today robotized, without the impetus of desire and libidinal drive (and is in charge of medicine as if it were a disease) is actually a stage of sexual life of women. The degree of castration of our bodies is the need to stop human reproduction at the mercy of the established order. And external repression is increasingly giving ground to the interior, loss of consciousness of our bodies, the autoinhibition and submission unconscious. Submission unconscious
our civilization's parents discovered what must be done to turn a bull in a bull and submissive to use his strength to pull a wagon or plow fields: castrated when very young, then they invented farming, have plenty cows, sheep or whatever, playing what matters, it is to dominate the species in question to reduce its vitality without killing the entire production to exploit these lives crippled. The art of domination, of exploitation devatación and applied it to human society, to get armies for wars of conquest and slavery to forced labor. In humans, had to manipulate the reproductive capacity of women to handle the creatures at birth and nurture them in the absence, in the repression and fear, to be forming the psychosomatic armoring needed for both the cruelty and competitiveness warrior to resignation slave, in this process, says Amparo Moreno (10), it is imperative that the mother loves her lover and child becomes able to suppress the patriarchal mother instead of her will, able to put the objectives of social promotion to immediate well-being, which is why we had to remove the beat of a woman's womb, the instinct of sexual desire that drives the play, ending the passion of loving mother, hence the ban on the expansion of female sexuality since childhood; the prohibition of shared sexuality of women, remove their habits and their living space where the uterus throbbed, and the introduction of a social status of inferiority made possible the entire submission. Although
along these millennia of patriarchy, the art and technique of domestication have changed, it has always been a combination of external repression (by physical force, coercion and incentive cryptic in the social scale) with internal repression (one's own self-conviction and autoinhibition of women). It is true that in some specific moments, and certainly at first, when the waves Kurgan matrifocal invaded the peaceful settlement of the Old Europe (11), there was just pure and simple external repression (now also when voluntary submission of women do not work Men use it); but it is also true that since the early myths were initiated and encouraged intended to convince women and their increasing voluntary compliance and increasingly unconscious. Today
socialization of women in the West produces a psychic structure and physical training for women, which make ourselves, says Lea Melandri reproduce our own destruction. (6) Every birth begins when we find that our mother is not there as a woman with a woman's body in extrauterine pregnancy, but as a woman and man for man, when we learn from our mothers to see ourselves through the eyes of man (Melandri). We alone in our crib and bed with her dad, this is the image of 'what should be' (the desire of an adult melee and phallocentric) and is, at once, which takes the forbidden awareness, 'what should not be,' (the desire of the maternal female body), so that we can never evoke that image, and we imagine that basic and fundamental value of our bodies, because so important is that the woman is out of order prohibited social, as it is beyond our imagination. So sexuality is constructed adapted to the patriarchal order, with the underestimation and misrepresentation of our bodies, which only have to like the man, the introjection of phallocentrism. The forbidden
not stated, is silenced and hidden behind the incest taboo, so they do not know that this taboo is primarily a woman's ban was incompatible with a certain model of society, and therefore was lost in the origin of this civilization.
suppression of melee with the mother (12) is the basis for the construction of the paradigms of man and woman, gender who make this society, its consequences are directly and immediately related to, among others, in source of violence, psychological internalization of power relations and submission, and the transformation of the outpouring of love in relationships possessiveness. The psychosomatic wound inflicted on the human creature born of a mother and robot libidinally aseptic, ie patriarcalizada has been found in different fields of knowledge. The coup received the human creature is a challenge to its existence, the shock, fear, anxiety and muscle tension are those of someone with the approach of death. The removal of the melee with the mother and the disappearance of sexuality of women is phallocentric mutilation and human Root pruning to make the tree into a bonsai.
Socialization is a process of manipulation of the wound caused by a lack of mother, and the anxiety that springs from this wound. So what is so important and symbolic act so effectively: it traps us in the deepest and also unconsciously. The content of this manipulation, which takes place during the socialization process is permanent emotional blackmail: to give you a little of what you have taken have to obey and enforce the rules. One of the main objectives of this socialization is to channel the longing and anxiety flowing from the wound to phallocratic order and to the couple, a couple who will be satisfied all the longings and find the fullness of sexual desire.
This defines the encoding or as an adult and phallocentric desire (if not originally era, was a muted desire for sex), while the children tell us that all sexual drive is 'sin', because it applies only to adult @ s @ s when you 'marry'. So grow up thinking that our desire is to find the prince, the man in your life, and that all our sexual energy is absorbed and filled by half. Only when the law is fulfilled on time and performed the paradigm (finding Prince Charming, or the better half) we will be free of anxiety, and also why the crisis less maladjustment or inadequacy of the rule causes much anxiety and depression: for reveals the primary wound. The sublimation of the basic fault, course, is different in girls and children, and that starts the construction of gender, and the whole system of identity that are deeply rooted emotional and unconscious. When we did the gender paradigms of feminine and masculine set, while we affirm the institutions that maintain social order (marriage or stable heterosexual couple mongámica), we also affirm our existence into question, why are so entrenched gender individually and socially and are so difficult to challenge.
And yet the question of gender is unstoppable because things do not work according to the myth of the dome; in fact the myth of the match in the girls that we project our desire for life and happiness, is a misleading picture.
First offers the image of the symbiosis of the two halves of the orange, draft adulthood. But the symbiosis belongs only to the primal stage, when arms need to be permanently fused to eat, keep warm, protected @ s, move, etc. Libido adult (except exterogestación status of women) occurs in mergers staple, not a merger or symbiosis status permanent. So the catch is that it offers the image of the orange, which is known to be true, to catch and channel the longing symbiotic the maternal body. So there is no Prince Charming who can fill that craving. In this emotional journey of our lives away from its mother and its meaning.
Second, our sexuality is not uniquely complements that of men. The myth of the dome offers the image of mutual complementarity, when the woman, still having regular heterosexual sex, have sexual states and go through their life cycles in which the libido is not directed toward the man. The symbolic order phallocratic projects the image of symmetry between the two sexes, thus leaving out of imagination and reality all female sexuality is not phallocentric. How there will be no crisis of couples in general, and heterosexual couples in particular? Adult life partnership is a paradigm phallocratic, belongs to the natural sexuality of mankind.
Third, throughout our lives the desire is not always set in the same person, no one can honestly say that only wanted one person in your life. So when the law is giving way and recognizes the right to be consistent with the feelings (in appearance at least) the marriage and the family is in crisis. In the traditional family, relationships between spouses and between parents and l @ s hij @ s were stable, with each one what he played, because they assumed the law, not because was the natural development of feelings. Now parents are complaining that l @ s hij @ s no respect or care for their old @ s, couples break up every few minutes, etc. etc. And this will continue while not recover the harmonious relations between the sexes (which presupposes the recognition of females and the asymmetry of gender roles.)
Fourthly, the two halves of the orange we present them as two homologous halves, the same volume, same weight, etc. This hides the ratio of male power over women. Although not a written law (now supposedly the law recognizes equal rights etc. Etc.), The Power of males enrolled in collective unconscious since the hegemonic group of men invented the system of giving every man, as a man, a share of the power of the country on the life and death of their wives, the offspring of women and their @ s servant (and it is no coincidence that the legal concept of patria potestas still retains this name in our civil code), and this takes millennia of implementation of specific development and running, so pre machismo and "male power are still highly topical. And so when people come in extreme situations of despair hit, rape and kill their wives, for your ego affirms itself with trying to compensate for the existence question: because it is mine and that's why I do what I want. The male paradigm, which is summarized in the name of 'father', has included the patria potestas, power over women l @ s hij @ s, the female, submission. As much as the word say it is mutual support, love, protection and respect, we know that there is the relationship of power and submission, in orange.
Fifth, the restoration of harmony between the sexes has nothing to do with the complementarity of any 'ego', neither male nor female, but with the recovery of what anthropology calls "system of group identity '(the perception of each as part of a group). Prohibited women recovering means to recover its social function, and this is not an individual function, but in groups, women's groups. The same is true for a non-patriarchal male condition (13).
Bibliography (1) Freud, Sigmond (1931) on female sexuality Complete Works Volume III New Library Edition, 1968
Madrid (2) De Choisy, Maryse: La guerre des Sexes Premieres 1970
Ed Publications (3) Merelo-Barbera, J. Give birth with pleasure. Kairos, Barcelona, \u200b\u200b1980.
(4) Reich, W. : Reich speaks of Freud Anagrama Ed. Also in Leboyer, F. Delivery: Chronicle of a trip, Ed Alta Fulla, Barcelona 1998
(5) According to the anthropologist Martha Moia (The girls not LaSala ed. De les Dones, Barcelona 1981) the first stable social bond of the human species was not heterosexual couples ... but all the ties that bind the woman who gives birth to baby ... (Which) is expanded to add other women ... The ginecogrupo (rather than heterosexual couples) is the first original form of human organization and universal ... that structure from requirements ... cultural, not instinctive .. is no other form of organization among several possible, but the original from which derived all known variables. This is corroborated by JJ Bachofen (Mythology archaic mother right ed. Anthropos, Barcelona) in their study based on ancient Greek literature, that social organization is structured from 'the maternal' (muttertum), but the incorrect translation of 'muterlich' (maternal) and 'mutertum' (the maternal ) almost as a rule have been translated by 'matriarchal' in all versions in Castilian, obscures this study.
(6) Melandri, Lea: The original infamy Ed.Ricou, Barcelona 1980
(7) Odent, M. The baby is a mammal Ed Mandala, Madrid 1990
(8) VVAA Mamatoto: the celebration of birth. Plural editions, Barcelona 1992.
(9) Balint, M. Lack Basic Paidós, Barcelona 1993 (10 publication: London and New York 1979)
(10) Letter to the Association Amparo Moreno patriarchy, n1 Bulletin 4, Madrid, December 1989.
(11) Lerner, Gerda The creation of the Patriarchate, Crítica, Barcelona 1990.
(12) Irigaray, Luce: The melee with the mother Sal ed. of them gifts
Barcelona 1985 (13) See note (5): besides the concept of 'ginecogrupo' Moia, there are a lot of data that provides the anthropology of the collective nature of the feminine role, such as 'tabula' of Malinowski (The sexual life of savages in North-Western Melanesia. Beacon Press, Boston 1987). As for the male condition, the 'polipáteres' Bachofen also very significant. According to him, in pre-patriarchal society every child @ had many 'parents' that l @ s cared: the term 'polipáteres' responds to the approach patricéntrico Bachofen and the inability to get out of the patriarchal perspective, but its meaning leaves no doubt regarding the collective nature of the masculine role.
Note: For more information on the topic of female sexuality may consultarsenuestros books: The suppression of maternal desire and the genesis of the unconscious state of submission (Mother Earth 1996), The assault on Hades (Dream Dealers 2001), article 'matricide and therapeutic state' of No 25 of the magazine Archipelago, in the monograph Ekintza Zuzenean 'Women's Sexuality', in the presentation "Reaching warp 'in the First International Congress on labor and birth at home, Jerez in October 2000.
This article has been published in PREOKUPANDO WOMEN, Valencia 2004.
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